Do you struggle to get a man to commit or feel attracted to you? I know it is hard because men are massive commitment-phobes.
Women are mysteries to men, and men are mysteries to women.
If you know what makes a man attract, you will be able to make him yours!
His Secret Obsession by James Bauer promises to help you do that. It claims to discover the real key to a male’s heart. And once you know it, you can make him yours forever without any problems.
But does the book work? Is it really possible to cast a spell over men?
So, I bought it and read it before I wrote this His Secret Obsession review. I’ll share all I know about it and whether or not it works.
Why I’m Writing This Review – And Why You Should Listen
Hey, I’m Chris. If you haven’t yet noticed – I’m a man.
That also means I’m not a His Secret Obsession’s target audience. Therefore, why am I doing this review and why should you listen?
For years, I’ve read and listened all about men’s and women’s psychology I could find. I want to create my own content.
In general, I have enough knowledge about the relationship coaching to verdict what works, what doesn’t – and where the value is.
In other words, it is where you should put your money.
Meet James Bauer – The Man Behind His Secret Obsession
Form the beginning, I’m always a bit doubtful about the authors of relationship books. So, I have to check the biography of the author first.
I’ve known about James Bauer before. He has worked as a legit relationship coach for over a decade to help men and women improve their relationships.
His second book is His Secret Obsession. It is the next part of the popular What Men Secretly Want. This book focuses on what stimulates a man’s desire for the woman who craves him.
A male relationship coach has an obvious advantage over female ones is that they know the inner workings of a male mind more. It is not weird for women to have advice form a man. And Jame understands that he is like all men to live off their instincts.
What His Secret Obsession Is About (And Who It’s For)
His Secret Obsession includes 200-page and can be downloaded as an audiobook or a PDF. Immediately, women finding empathy in it have been disappointed by their effort to chase a man. Hands up if any of this sounds familiar to you:
You’ve tried to know a guy, kept chatting to them. You’ve even met them and they clearly concerned. But then – puff – they pass from sight. Not only once but it has happened umpteenth.
You’ve dated a guy who loves you as much as you love him. When you think you could settle down with him, but he doesn’t seem to want to commit. What gives?
You’ve dated a guy who’s very pushes and pull. In a moment, he’s hot for texting, the next minute he’s cold and distant. So frustrating.
His Secret Obsession’s core argument is that none above result from your fault. The reason is you haven’t touched a man’s Hero Instinct yet. The book will show you a) what The Hero Instinct is and b) How you can use it to your advantage.
Besides, the Hero Instinct, the book explores other “secret” signals a man responds to a woman. I cannot tell you more details, but below are several secret signals you can learn from the book:
- The Glimpse Phrase – According to James, this signal gives a man a ‘glimpse’ into what a future with you could look like
- The Fascination Signal – James shares an innocent phrase that makes a man emotionally addicted to you
- The Damsel in Distress Signal – This is the signal that taps into a guy’s protective instincts. In an instant, he will switch into “protect and serve” mode
What Is The Hero Instinct?
The Hero Instinct isn’t a new notion. James didn’t create it. However, with his book he makes women who hear it for the first time pay attention to it. And it is in the centre of the book.
The Hero Instinct is biological. It controls a man at heart. It cannot be changed. However, if you don’t trigger it, you will lose a guy you desire.
Here’s The Hero Instinct in a nutshell:
- A man wants his life to be meaningful
- A man wants a clear purpose in his life
- A man wants to feel like he is appreciated for all that he does
- A man wants to be the provider in a relationship – he wants to take care of you and his family
- A man wants respect
You might argue that “this isn’t how most men I know behave.”
His Secret Obsession makes you wonder about that. You think all the men you know and their core actions. What really motivates them? Is it purely and simply just sex, beer and sports? Or do they want something more out of life?
Why are men obsessed with work? It’s because they are controlled by primal urges.
Almost men want something more out of life than what they had. Why a man in his thirties hasn’t settled down yet? The reason is he hasn’t met a woman who he cares enough for and who hasn’t stimulated his Hero Instinct. If she can do that, her chances rise.
His Secret Obsession pays attention to what The Hero Instinct is. And if you want to go along with a man, you need to know what he needs that is respect, meaning, and purpose.
A man doesn’t want an independent woman because she doesn’t need him. He wants to care for you.
Because this is the core value of His Secret Obsession, I can only share my thoughts about it. I believe that James Bauer is right on the money. All men want to feel like heroes. That is the reason why we watch action and war movies and James Bond movies. We also want to be heroes in our movies.
And if a woman can understand that, she’ll find it easy to maintain his attention.
Is His Secret Obsession Worth The Money? My Personal Experience
His Secret Obsession’s price is $56.40. And you have full access and the book comes with a 60-day money-back guarantee.
Through 200-page, James gives insights, practical advice, tips, and tactics that I’ve heard before. You can find the truths of men’s psyche, some of them are new to you, some aren’t.
His Secret Obsession does its mission very well. It shows women a massive insight into why a man behaves the way he does, so let them finally “get” a man who otherwise seems to up and down.
His advice is practical, which I like the most. James shows you exactly method to apply in real-life situations. He tells you what needs to do and what need to stop doing.
In addition, everything he shows and teaches is depended on 12-year of experience as a relationship coach.
I didn’t need the book, but for you, a woman is struggling problems related to her relationship, maybe it will be the only book you need.
Benefits of His Secret Obsession
- It’s Practical
- Easy to Read
- Can Feel a Tad Patronising
My Verdict On His Secret Obsession
In conclusion, His Secret Obsession is an ideal book for females struggling to get a man to commit when it’s clear that there’s some attraction there. He likes you, said he likes you – but there are still some secrets.
His Secret Obsession tells you exactly what is wrong but you are doing it. Then, it shows you what your advantage is and how to apply it.
It’s not rocket science or wizardry, but a relationship coach like James Bauer can help us see the light. I loved the practicality of the book and the way James explained men’s psychology. Although it’s quite expensive, it’s worth your money due to its long-term results.